More of My Story

I’ve had the gift of mediumship for as long as I can remember. By the time I was eight years old, people who had passed away were already visiting me. I could see them, speak with them, and receive what they wanted their loved ones to know—memories, moments, messages of reassurance or love. At the time, I didn’t know this ability had a name. I only knew it was real. Sometimes I knew who the messages were for. Sometimes I didn’t. And when I couldn’t help, I had to turn them away.

I learned quickly that being open about my experiences could cost me belonging and acceptance in society. So I became quiet. I didn’t want to be labeled unstable or delusional. I didn’t yet understand the spirit world, and I was taught—explicitly and implicitly—to be afraid of it. Eventually, I did what many sensitive children do, I shut it down for many years.

Although I had shied away from my gift as a medium, I followed my inner calling to help and guide people. I love truly listening to people, helping them become aware of things they might have difficulty seeing or realizing, helping them help themselves. To that end, my career path has always involved counseling in some form. I earned a B.A. in Psychology, magna cum laude, from Boston College, and a J.D., cum laude, from U.C. Law San Francisco (formerly Hastings). I practiced law for over 15 years, primarily offering legal counsel in employment law. Later, I became a Realtor®, something I continue in to this day, counseling people on buying and selling their homes and making new memories in new places. On paper, these degrees and careers may look unrelated. In truth, they are all expressions of the same calling: to listen deeply, provide information, and help people find clarity when they may feel overwhelmed.

My love for helping people extends to helping them understand grief, spirit connection, and healing. The death of a loved one is difficult and emotionally excruciating. I speak from experience as one who has lost many loved ones. My mother died just before Christmas in 2011 after a long battle with brain cancer that began when she was just 49 years old. My much younger cousin died in 2004 at age 26 from cancer. My best friend lost her six year old daughter and husband in a tragic drowning accident in 2016. My auntie, father-in-law, uncle, and grandparents, have all passed. When I was in high school, a colleague and mentor of mine was shot and killed; she was only in her young twenties. During my college years, I lost two friends to tragic accidents. I have grieved the loss of many other good friends, family members, and pets.

My journey with grief has been long, and traditional talk therapy helped. But, I wish I knew then what I know now. I thought I had to “let go”, “move on”; continue living as if everything was the same, as if I was the same. I thought grief was something to overcome, resolve, or leave behind in order for life to move forward. So, I continued on, going to work, and raising my sons. For many years, though, I had no joy.

These loses reawakened my gift. Spirits of my mother, cousin, friends, and others I knew, and didn’t know, would still visit me. They would come while I was driving home, brushing my teeth, or watching a movie. I still didn’t feel safe telling most people about it. The few people I did share it with loved receiving the messages and always thanked me. They had many questions, though, that I could not answer. I had no idea how it worked, when it would happen, or why it happened. The spirit visits were always very random and unexpected.

It wasn’t until late 2023 that I had an epiphany, or awakening, that I needed to claim my gift and share it with the world. I had always been drawn to Charleston, South Carolina, and Savannah, Georgia, so planned a trip there for October 2023. I had never been to a medium before, and thought it would be great to experience a reading on my trip. My sister and brother had been to several mediums since our mother died and were grateful for their sessions. I searched the Internet and social media for mediums in those areas to no avail. Instead, I found a hypnotherapist and booked a session. Prior to our session, I told her about the messages I delivered to people from their passed loved ones. She encouraged me to become a medium, and our session solidified that I needed to follow this path and share my gift to help others heal.

I spent the next two years soaking it all in; educating myself, practicing mediumship, learning to control my gift, and not to be scared. After studying mediumship, I am no longer scared of “evil” spirits. I believe that spirits are fundamentally love and light—much like a newborn child whose essence is pure innocence. People have free will, and some of them choose to engage in evil acts, but their essential core spirit is not evil. When they pass away they become only light and love energy again. Spirits often communicate their love, joy, sorrow, regrets, and apologies during mediumship readings, and it is so beautiful to bring those messages through to clients.

I also learned that I am in control. Spirits who want to communicate will do so with full respect of my boundaries. Because I made my boundaries clear with “office” hours, I no longer see scary or gory things or receive the random spirit “drop ins”. I also learned we attract what we think about and focus on. I do not think or try to learn about anything used for bad intentions, such as what some people may refer to as spells, witchcraft, or voodoo. I choose to focus on love, light, healing, and for the greater good.

All of this understanding empowered me to answer the call to mediumship. As a part of that endeavor, I started doing readings professionally in my free time in September 2024, as planned, after my twin boys went off to college. The benefits of mediumship as a grief healing aid are great. My mission is to normalize and professionalize mediumship as a supplement to traditional grief therapy and make it more accessible to all.